The cancer kiss-off

12 Nov

Originally published October 13, 2011 on

As luck would have it, one of the first things that happened to me after my breast cancer diagnosis, was the guy I was seeing decided it was all too much for him. Or I was too much for him. Or something.

Anyway, since post-diagnosis dumping is a pretty common phenomenon (for women), I decided it might make an interesting story.  My piece, “Cancer kiss-off:  getting dumped after diagnosis” went live on Today/ last week.  Here’s how it starts:

Getting diagnosed with breast cancer is bad enough. But getting dumped by the guy you’re seeing right afterwards is sort of like finding a piece of spoiled lettuce on your crap sandwich.

Granted, the guy I was dating wasn’t exactly husband — or even steady boyfriend — material; it was far too early in the game for that. But there was something there. Until things started getting “heavy.” Then, not only was the “something” gone, so was he.

Unfortunately, I’m not alone when it comes to the cancer kiss-off.

When Cindy Wine was diagnosed with breast cancer 10 years ago, she came home from her first radiation treatment to an empty house.

“My husband said he couldn’t go with me — he was too busy at work,” says the 55-year-old former radio host from Indianapolis. “But when I got home, all of his stuff was gone. I felt like somebody had punched me in the gut.”

For the rest of the story, click here.

2 Responses to “The cancer kiss-off”

  1. Cancer in My Thirties November 1, 2013 at 11:02 am #

    Excellent article, Diane! Well written and well done!
    And that boyfriend obviously did not deserve you, that I can say for sure…
    I hope your surgery recovery is going okay.
    Warmest wishes,
    “cancer in my thirties”

    • singleshot1 November 1, 2013 at 12:01 pm #

      Thanks sweetie! That guy is long gone although I’m still getting good mileage out of his comment “It’s not the cancer, it’s you.” You can’t buy material like that. ; ) Recon recovery is going pretty well now. Just got in from my second run since surgery. Woo hoo! Take care and thanks for stopping by the site!

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